Ex-Girlfriend has a new boyfriend but still has feelings for me..advice?

We talked for about 2 months and after we had been dating for about a month, she cheated on me at a party(got drunk and took bars, made a mistake) and I didn't find out about this until 2 months later. She said the reason she hadn't told me was because she was afraid it would ruin our relationship. Well now that I look back, I actually agree with her because I think she genuinely felt terrible about it. You see about 3 weeks after she had cheated on me, was when we had our first "I love you" conversation and I remember her tear up when I told her, and I asked her why, and she just told me that she was so happy, but later after I had found out she cheated she admitted that it was because when I told her I loved her she felt terrible about it and had realized the mistake she made. One more thing before I go on, throughout the 2 months after she cheated on me before I found out, our relationship began to take off and turned into something amazing. We always had that great chemistry, for example, throughout the whole time we were dating, we'd find ourselves saying the same thing at the same time literally 3-4 times everytime we saw each other. The sex was incredible, some of that had to do with the great physical attraction between us, but it got better the deeper and closer we got to each other. We always knew how to make each laugh, we could have fun together anywhere, anytime. We could cut up and have fun, and we could get serious and have those deep conversations. We became great lovers, and even better friends. It was basically the best time in our relationship. Well after I found out, I broke up with her for about a week and half. She wrote me letters, apologized, promised that it wouldn't happen agian, everything. She even said she wouldn't move back to Dallas, that's how much this relationship meant to her. See she was originally from Dallas and had moved here, about a 2 hour drive, and had been living here about 2 months before we met, and had been talking about moving back to Dallas after the first month we'd been dating. I finally decided that she was human just like me and made a mistake. We got back together and she actually did try to gain my trust back. She always called and let me know where she was, who she was with, didn't party, didn't leave me any room to doubt her. Well her being my first love and sexual partner, I was kinda torn up about the whole thing cause I had never dealt with infidelity before. I tried to trust her but ended up questioning her all the time, acting jealous, being a dick basically, which I know had a negative affect on her, because before I found out that she had cheated, I never questioned her, never asked her about who she was with or what she was doing in a prying kinda way, I was cool cause I trusted her. Well after about 2 months of this, she moved back to Dallas because her stepdad had physically hurt her and things at her mom and stepdad's just was going well. We'd see each other every week, and I'd either stay at her dads with her for 2-3 days or shed stay at my parents with me for 3-4 days. Well after about a month months of this, when I'm down there seeing her, I find out from her phone that she had been talking to another guy who she had met at her work(where I lived). I called him and he didn't even know she had a boyfriend, and sounded equally upset. He told me how they had been talking for about a month and a half or so and how they only hung out 2 times, once she went and saw him when he got outta school and once over at his friends, where she tried to kiss him after she had been drinking, but he refused and told her that he wasn't gonna take advantage of her. The couple times they hung out was when she lived here, cause she moved to Dallas he moved to Austin. Well I brought this to her and she was embarassed/guilty/ sad and told me how there was a big part of her holding onto this relationship hoping that I would start to trust her and things would go back to normal but another part of her that started to think that I would never trust her and was getting tired of the way I was acting. Well she ended up coming down with me and spent about 5 days, us trying to work things out. Well after she went back, I tried calling this guy a couple times, she found out, and she called me really pissed and told me how she wanted to take a break cause while part of really wanted this to work, parted of her wanted her freedom agian. She said it wasn't for her to meet other guys or anything, but that she had gotten tired of me staying on her all the time about where she was or who she was with and just wanted to be able to hang out with her friends without getting griped at. Well I gave her her space and let her come to me, she texted me everyday and all that. Well after about a week, she called saying that she wanted me back cause she really missed me and missed how I made her feel and bein in my arms and all that jazz. I made her wait 3 days to really think about it an

ex boyfriend wants to still be friends after months.. and having a new girlfriend?

So my ex and i broke up 7 months ago. We remained "friends" up until more than 3 months ago. but we were never really 'just friends'. We never did anything in our confusion state, but we still both acted like we had feelings for eachother.. just never acted upon them. We both hang out with the same people. But we stopped being "real friends" because he got a new girlfriend. who I may add is extremely unnattractive. He just all of a sudden stopped showing any interest in me and completely wrote me off. He acted like I didn't exist. I still have strong feelings for him so this was hard. but I had to accept it. So I attempted to move on. We honastly didn't say a word to eachother for 2 months. Even though we saw eachother almost every other day.. and with her with him. We recently got into a fight, stupid things were said and it just escalated. we just cannot be friends, we had a fantastic relationship and I (and all of our friends) believe he broke up with me because he got scared. I decided to take the leap and delete him off facebook and i said i wasn't going to hang out if he was there. My friend had a party and he showed up. super awkward, but he was quiet the entire night (which isnt like him) and I know he mentioned to one of my friends 'he wants to talk to me but is scared to becuase he thinks i hate him and he still really wants to be my friend' and that 'he never should have said anything'. I'm still not having it. I just cannot be friends with him becuase i'm still in love with him. He still hasn't really said anything to me since then (about 2 weeks ago). We hung out last night with our friends and it was alright. we didnt say much but did talk a little. He is having problems with his current gf who is 3 and a half hours away at college. I found out from a friend that a week ago she had a converstaion with him and it went along the lines of that "he doesnt know what to do about me" my friend is still friends with her ex as well and he said "at least that he (her ex) still talks to her" (meaning i dont talk to him). He "really wants to talk to me and be my friend so bad, that i'm so cool to hang out with, but its just not working out as friends". what do i make of this?? Does he still have feelings for me? The reason I dont go out of my way to talk to him is because he doesnt really talk to me. He's the one who acts like he doesnt want anything to do with me half the time, especially since the new girlfriend. We do just fine not talking to eachother when were all hanging out together, so I dont think he wants to be my friends to just keep the peace. Sorry this was long. I just don't know what to do. I really want to talk to him and fix things (and work on getting him back) but I just can't do that becuase my pride is too big at the moment. I want him to talk to me first. but it seems we are both waiting for eachother now. What could the resaon be he wants to be my friend, espiecally being with a new girlfriend? he still wanted to be my friend even when their relationship was "great". I'm attempting to still move on, but it's really not that easy.

Should I write a short letter?

I had a relationship with a friend of mine who is married. For six months this went on, we broke up a cpl days before xmas. She wants her husband back. So i just wanted to tell her I'm fine with it. Because when it happened i acted desperate towards her. And on xmas day,too. So is it fine to let her know that its ok with me or just leave it alone and keep looking like a desperate fool? the idea i got from Magic of Making Up. (book)

would this make you want your ex back?

It is from "the magic of making up" you send them this letter - and it is suppose to have a reverse psychology effect and make them want to contact you again and re think ending things now that you are ok with ending things.

(Name,

I just wanted to let you know that i understand and agree with your decision to end things and would like to apologize for how i initially reacted about everything.

Oh! And i have since had quite the streak of luck, funny timing huh?

Would like to catch up fill you in some time in the future.

Take Care
-Name)

Ex's wife sent cops after me for calling her and idiot.?

Okay this morning I get a phone call from a police officer in another state. He says that he is investigating a police report made by my husband's ex wife.
In the report she claims the myself and another person slandered her. Now the who conversation was basically this. The other person posted something about the number of idiots in her life. I posted back did you run into the ex's wife? She said yes and she is getting fat. I said maybe she will pop out another kid.
Now we never used her name and both of our FB accounts are restricted so the only way she got on to see it was to go through one of the step kids pages to get to a parents.
The report also claims that she has numerous other pieces of evidence that she has gathered from other websites. The only other place I talk "About" her is a step parent forum devoted to helping each other with custody issues. In it I have stated the issues and asked questions. I have never used anyone's names and the only reason she knew it was me is because she is following me around the web.
The office basically told me that she was very upset and I am not aloud to talk about her on line. First I don't just talk about her I talk about issues we have that include her. Second, if I'm not using names and I am anonymous except to some stalking me (her) how can that be a crime? What about the 1st amendment?
For example if she finds this she would call the cops. Is it right that I can not speak about my issues in a private way?
Third, is there anything I can do, she is basically running around the web looking for my email address that has been changed now?
Is this post a crime?

Husband's ex sent cops after me for refering to her as and idiot?

Okay this morning I get a phone call from a police officer in another state. He says that he is investigating a police report made by my husband's ex wife.
In the report she claims the myself and another person slandered her. Now the who conversation was basically this. The other person posted something about the number of idiots in her life. I posted back did you run into the ex's wife? She said yes and she is getting fat. I said maybe she will pop out another kid.
Now we never used her name and both of our FB accounts are restricted so the only way she got on to see it was to go through one of the step kids pages to get to a parents.
The report also claims that she has numerous other pieces of evidence that she has gathered from other websites. The only other place I talk "About" her is a step parent forum devoted to helping each other with custody issues. In it I have stated the issues and asked questions. I have never used anyone's names and the only reason she knew it was me is because she is following me around the web.
The office basically told me that she was very upset and I am not aloud to talk about her on line. First I don't just talk about her I talk about issues we have that include her. Second, if I'm not using names and I am anonymous except to some stalking me (her) how can that be a crime? What about the 1st amendment?
For example if she finds this she would call the cops. Is it right that I can not speak about my issues in a private way?
Third, is there anything I can do, she is basically running around the web looking for my email address that has been changed now?
Is this post a crime?
Popfav, My hubby is a retired cop too, he said the same thing you did, I did call he is legit, but some of what he said was weird like when I pressed the issue and said what crime did I commit he said just don't talk about her, he also said he didn't want to make it multijuristictional I didn't know that could even happen with a mistermeaner. I mean all he said was stop. but like right now we are talking about"her" can I get in trouble? And yeah I shouldn't have refered to her as an idiot but only me and the other person and her could have known who I was talking about and she wouldn't have know if she were not snooping where she shouldn't have been.

Bad Relationship. Break up with him without breaking his heart?? HELP PLEASE FAST!?

Ok so im going out with this guy..I dont want to be going out with him, i really want things to cool off, but if i break up with him im going to loose all my friends cause they are all good friends with him and they wont talk to me :O
He just isn't the guy for me, i can get better and i know i can because there is nothing going for him and i go to so much effort to get ready to see him and he doesn't even lift a finger and he doesn't appreciate it :O
I just want to know how i can break up with him without breaking his heart or hurting him and i still want to be friends with him but how!?
Please help me fast because i dont want this relationship to carry on!

PLEASE x

Complicated Teen Relationship..break up help?

I've had a crush on my best guy friend since Oct '09 and he has really (i mean REALLY) liked me for more than a year. He finally asked me out and we have been together for the past few months. I knew not to expect much from this relationship b/c I knew he and his family were going through problems (him & his mom don't have a good relationship). I knew she had never liked me b/c I was a girl and he was a guy (& we're different religions too... but we're both okay w/ it.. just not his mom)
she flipped out when she found out about us.. ever since last year.. she's sorta been stalking mee (before we were going out). she found out where i lived by searching my name on fb and then searching on yellow pages. she checked my bf's phone bills.. and had my home and cell numbers.

and my bf isn't really allowed to see me. I mean we can't really hang anywhere outside of school and when we do.. his parents stalk us.. i mean they literally have staled us 5 times... i am really tired of it and my bf knows it too.

lately it seems he's really obsessed with me. he's always following me and i never see him hang out with his friends. I kind of need the same but don't know how to tell him. he's very gentle and fragile. i really like him but i don't want to break up with him. another thing is that he's so nice that i always think about him and my grades have been falling. we're both juniors, the most important year (school, SATs and college etc)

is it really worth being in this relationship? i mean i really don't feel as if there is a relationship b/c we only see each other for about 20 minutes the entire day in the hallways.. we have no classes or lunch together and we can't spend time outside of school. or online or on the phone..

this is my first relationship and i don't know what to do. how should i tell him that i want to take a break? he makes it harder by holding me or kissing me or telling me he loves me. honestly i don't know what love is... when and how should i do this? any tips? ..please help?!?? thanks

points to the best answer =]

Who else thinks Jon and Kate are becoming selfish when it comes to their kids?

I just read an article on how the aunt and uncle of the kids are speaking out and saying that they are exploiting the children, adding that the kids told them how they didn't like the cameras on them all the time.
And what's even worse is Jon and Kate are still doing the show instead of concentrating on fixing their marriage! It's like if they really cared about their relationship and family, wouldn't they put their marriage as their first priority?!

I just feel really bad for those poor kids...

Need advice-fixing my relationship with my 11 year old son?

This morning after a multitude of frustrations that have been building slowly but exponentially the last two months I had the proverbial "straw" and "camel's back" situation and when my son told me for the 3rd time he needed to go to grandma's to get his shoes I snapped and told him I was taking care of it, like I was taking care of making sure 4 kids were fed and clothed and had a house and that I got to work at some point and that I was taking care of it and everything, etc (fill in crazy tirade here). Then, after I dropped the formula back at the daycare for the 3 month old I told him I was sorry and he didn't derserve me yelling all that to him and I didn't know how I could ensure he had a good day, but that is truly what I wanted for him. Then I spent the 15 minute drive to grandma's crying.

I know he felt bad, but this is not his burden and I just feel like such a failure, I don't know what to say to him when I pick him up after work. Any advice?

Should i break up with him?

I feel like my bf does not appreciate me as i always try to talk or text him before he does. We are in a LDR as he is a freshman in college and im a senior in HS for the past year. Hes taking summer classes in his college so I havnt seen him since last saturday.
On tuesday there was tornado alerts across oklahoma and my bf was in edmond. I texted him to make sure he was ok and he never texted me back. I called him twice, first time i got a busy signal the second time it was turned off. Next day around 4:30 he facebooks me about how his phone was dead and he would have it tomorrow. (Does it take more then 24 hours to charge a phone?) His exact words were "My phone is dead again... I'll have it charged tomorrow... I love you and miss you and hope you have a great week!" So then he doesn't call or text or anything for three days, as im trying to test him. So then around midnight he texts me if i want to go on a double date tomorrow.
ME: "no thank you" and then after 20 minutes
Me:"Is that all?"
HIM:"Well what are you doing tomorrow? We were invited on a double date and I have my phone charger. sorry i was so random..."
Me: Right...ya i dont think i can." darn."
Him:Well my family reunion dinner is at 7:30 tomorrow if you want to come." "Im also free on sunday till 5."
Me:"I dont think i can see you this weekend to be honest."
Him: Nothing after 25 minutes. Not a "why not?" or anything
So i call him and when he picks up the phone i hear a party going on in the background so i just hang up feeling embarrassed etc. Then he texts me something like.."well ok then, I love you and miss you and Ill see you soon!"
Im on the edge of breaking up with him. He obviously does not listen to me or take me seriously right? I feel like im a doll to him sometimes. I texted him back letting him know in one way or another that im NOT OK and he never texted me back. By the way we havn't talked on the phone in about 3-5 weeks.

Can anyone help me? PLEASE
If texting him once or twice a day is too much effort from me then whats the point? thats all we do now that were away.

Am I stupid for allowing him to come back into my life?

We've all heard "If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were." Well, I met a friend thru a friend and he ended up moving to another country. We kept in talking for hours online and on the phone. Just laughing and talking. I started to like him alot and he as well. We talked about everything from eloping to kids. So after a while, i asked him where we stood. And he said he hates oversea relationships and but we needed to talk about it over the phone. I IMed him, called him on skype (cause its free to talk overseas) and no response. I got so flustered and upset i just gave up. I figured if he missed me he would call or write. Then... i didnt hear from him for 5 weeks. Well last night he wrote to me on facebook and told me that yesterday was his boiling point. He didnt understand why i had chosen not to talk to him anymore. He said he had been calling and calling and I wasnt picking up. He had been IMing me and i wasnt writing back. He wanted to know if i was angry at him for something. I told him i wasn't angry, i was more disappointed than anything because i though he had decided not to talk to me anymore and i backed off because i didnt want him to feel pressured into a relationship with me since he said he didnt like overseas relationships. And I got a new number cause my phone got destroyed. Here we where both thinking the other was upset at the other. I felt so silly. All the emotional distress and frustration was for no reason. Just a break down in communication. He told me yesterday that he missed me terribly and that he loved me. I told him i missed him too. And i did. To the point where i didnt sleep some nights. I didnt tell him that though. I told him i thought i was impossible for him to just walk away from me the way i thought he had. I had thought he didnt want to talk to me anymore. I gave him my new number and he called it. First thing he said was "you suck" and I said "you suck" and laughed. He told me how much he missed my voice and my laugh.

Long story short, I wanna believe he missed me and that he loves me. I want to reconnect with him but im scared. What if he was just got lonely. What would make someone come back after 5 weeks?

I asked a question a few weeks ago about letting him go and a YA!er quoted the above statement. Do you think he deserves another chance?

Ex boyfriend w/ new girlfriend, but i want him back?

ok well yesterday i found out that my ex asked another girl out. but he asked me out again a couple days b4 that. he kept bugging me to answer him, so i said no w/o thinking. i didnt mean to. friday we were talking about new gf and he wanted to know y i asked i said cuz i saw she was wearing his fb jersey and hes like well i wanted you to wear it so we were txting last night and he asked y i said no. so i told him i was scared becuz i havent had a bf that really mattered like he kind of did. then his phone died so i hav no idea what he thought

does this sound like he still wants me? it might just b my mind telling me what i want to hear so i want ur opinions. plz help
should i just tell him i want to go out again??? any advice plz

i didnt break up w/ him
ive wanted him back for a while
way b4 i found out about susan

Would it be unfair to want my Ex boyfriend back now he has a new girlfriend?

We were together for 2 1/2 years and we broke up 4 months ago, but now he is seeing someone else, but i miss him and want to get back with him. I don't know how to get him back now he has a new girl, what can i do?

Has anyone read or downloaded the book called The Magic of Making Up? If so, then is it just a scam?

Hey. There is this book called Magic of Making Up. You can order it or downloaded it off the internet. Its a book to get your ex back. I heard fanatical reviews about the book on their website. The author also reads emails people sent him about the book on videos. All of the emails said it worked.
I wanted to hear from actual people though.
So, has anyone read the Magic of Making Up. If so, then does it work or is it a scam?

Where can I get the Magic Of Making Up download version ?

I just broke up with my girlfriend and I am desperate for this book, I heard from a friend of mine it got him back with his girlfriend.
Where can I get the magic of making up ?
Thank you

Do you think he will ever take me back? Do guys take girls back after they cheat?

i was with my ex boyfriend for 3 and 1/2 years but we broke up august 10th because i cheated on him. im a horrible person i know =[ but i need advice. we both had control and jealousy issues because we both had been hurt in the past and we made it so that we both could not hang out or talk to the opposite sex at all.... even if there were other people there with us. it worked really well for us though and we were both happy and we both abided by the rules. however, i started to get lonely during the summer because my ex and i could barely hang out and im doing running start (go to college instead of your high school) so i missed all of my old friends and the interaction i got there and my old really good friend wanted to hang out with me (she is a girl) so i was like okay cool. she kept saying how she wanted to get back with her ex so i was like hey he should hang out with us and ill set you guys back up. I was just going to lie to my boyfriend about it. we all started hanging out a lot but the reverse thing happened and he started to really like me. besides that drama i was hanging out with other people too which included guys behind his back and would go camping with them. (so i would pretty much spend the night with them) but i never ever cheated on him. eventually my friends ex got jealous and told my boyfriend about all the guys i was hanging out with and he broke up with me. he wouldnt talk to me for a few weeks and i went to my friends ex for comfort after i heard that he was all kissy on this girl he used to like and that they have been seen hugging and cuddling at various places. my friends ex boyfriend and i started getting really really close and eventually we kissed and acted like we were going out and eventually we made it official. i just couldnt get my mind off my ex though and i went to his house and demanded to talk to him. we talked for a few hours and i lied my way out of the hanging out behind his back thing and said that the guy was just being stupid and was jealous of our relationship so he tried to ruin it. he fell for it and took me back instantly. so at that point i was dating two people! =[ i wanted to just be dating my 3 year boyfriend but i felt bad for the other guy because i felt like i played him and i didnt want to break up with him and hurt him. i waited a 3 days to clear my head and make sure i was making the right decision but by then my friend whose ex i pretty much stole, found out about everything and told both guys. my 3 year ex called me and asked if it all was true and i said yes it is. and he said eff you im done with you, you cheating b word and hasnt talked to me since AT ALL. he wont answer his phone, deleted and blocked me from myspace and told all his friends to ignore me or they arent going to be his friends anymore. and has now dated 2 other girls. he dated the one who he had been seen cuddling and kissing when we were single but they broke up after a month in a half because his jealousy issues were too much and she cheated on him, fully. now he is dating this girl that he used to hang out with before the rules were instated. the thing was she was with a GIRL for 4 years and he had told me that she was one of the ugliest fattest chicks ever and he was not interested in her at all and on top of that she was lesbian and in a serious relationship. (she turned bi for him because she loves him so much she said) not to be gross... but we were each others "first" but now he has done it with her. infact they did that before they were even going out. she asked him to homecoming after really truely knowing him for a week and that night she spent the night at his house and they did it. they have been together for 2 months now and swear that they are madly and deeply in love. he has millions of songs he wrote for her, they hang out all the time, and i constantly see them around kissing. cuddling. taking pictures. everywhere around town. i cant even look at guys in that way. i just want my ex and no one else. i realize that he is perfect for me now that ive been hanging out with other guys and seeing what they are like (i never knew before because i was sheltered from all contact with guys) and i talked to his friend and my ex felt that i was perfect for him too and was beyond happy with me but when we were going out and were really good he said that he loved me so much that he would never ever even think about breaking up with me, then paused and said well only if you cheated on me. i know i made a beyond huge mistake do you think he will forgive me and eventually even talk to me again? im just really confused and hurt, i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASE!

Ten days after we got "back together" I told him that I wanted to "move in" with my ex and be "just friends"?

We were never "officially" boyfriend/girlfriend, so technically I cant "dump" or "break up" with him if we were never "official".

We've been going on "dates" on-and-off for almost a year now, and have been intimate on a weekly basis..

I use to call him 5 times (every single day) for months, and he spoiled me rotten.

I even continued to go on dates with him for 5 months AFTER he told me he was "in love" with me.

I did tell him: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Anyways, we eventually got "back together" after I "dumped" him with the Silent Treatment breakup (6 weeks of the silent treatment). This was the 3rd time I've "dumped" him in a year.

10 days after being "back together" I break the news to him that I want to "move in" with my ex.

I then ask him to be "just friends."

He basically told me I was stringing him along, and that he didnt want to be my back-up "boyfriend."

He was furious at the thought of me "banging" my ex, sleeping in the same bed with my ex, waking up every morning with my ex, and basically the fact that I would be "seeing" my ex everyday and not him.

I told him he was never my "official" significant other..

I am so upset that he doesnt want to be "just friends" with me. I feel like he is being selfish and abandoning me.

Am I wrong? I mean how bad could he really be feeling right now?